I'm so glad to see you here! I'm not sure if I should be leaving, but I think I'll stick here for a bit and see which way the wind blows.
When you sit down to do your goals, make sure you also do some type of solution journal. List all the things you have been doing that are working--working to make you happy and sane and working to get your H to be communicative and responsive to you.
Did he come up with the suggestion you all move into one house? Such good news. I'm happy for you!