Help! Went to MC today and H said he is concerned about the changes he sees in me because he thinks I'm "faking it" just to get him to come back and he doesn't really know the real me. I told him that I was analyzing myself and have identified some changes I want to make so that I'm a better me for life going forward with or without him. He said he didn't buy it. What do I do?
Just keep it up. Its supposed to be the natural reaction of the spouse to be skeptical of any changes for awhile. My W has said the same thing to her sister and me about how she has seen changes, but just thinks its a temporary thing to get her back and then it'll go back to the way it was before. I know that I have made changes for myself and they will stay permanent, but I guess maybe one day she will realize that too.
