I'm very sorry it's come to this, choc. I don't know what more you could have done.....
Dude .... if it's mutual (and it is, because "I want a separation and to be able to do whatever I please but still have you support me and provide childcare at night" is not an option in a sane universe) .... why in the name of all that is holy would YOU even CONSIDER moving in with HER parents???????
Because she takes 1 out of the 2 of them to school, picks them both UP from school, does all their laundry, makes 1/2 their meals, and is more involved in their day-to-day logistics than I am. I work 40-50 hours per week and she works 10-15 (altho that's going to need to change some).
When she was hooking up in darkened parking lots with her boyfriend two summers ago, I filed for full custody, because I didn't think that was any environment in which to raise two boys. But there's been no repeat infidelity, and there never was any BEFORE that, so I really don't have any issue with her parenting other than she doesn't make them do enough around there to help her.
I didn't type all this out, but the arrangement is going to be slightly different than that. We're talking about me still taking S12 to school in the morning, and then on the nights when my wife works (about 3 nites per week), I would come over to the house and have dinner with the boys, and probably help S12 with his homework.
Trust me, I get the whole "Why should I be the one to move out??" thing, but unless it's an ongoing affair or it's one spouse wanting to end the marriage and the other doesn't, why SHOULD she be the one to move out?
