Thank you, kind sir. Your interest and support helps me heal. Knowing that I'm not the only one with a failed or failing marriage is comforting as I KNOW healing will come and life will be better regardless of the ultimate outcome of my sitch.
Letting go is both difficult and a process. It's difficult to change the inertia of my inaccurately pointed vessel, the U.S.S. Tom, but I do realize that being pointed in the wrong direction by even one degree leads to a HUGE error in where I will ultimately arrive without auto-corrections along the way. NOW, is a big correction. Painful.
And yes, XW's choices in my presence are inappropriate and flat out wrong, but for her, perhaps they served her purpose to push me away; to force me to stand my ground and show what is completely unacceptable to ME. I do know that I've continued to show her what I will find acceptable by continuing to stick around waiting for whatever scraps she drops, although not necessarily for me so much as for her.
Yes, I must keep my word, not like I have NOT in the past. Yep, even I was getting tired of the stink of the cesspool invading my pores. Washing off.
Reading Men Are From Mars... now. Thanks.
Keep learning and offering your perspectives. I'm learning every day too.
Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT! previously hopeful_husband
my A: Fall 05 W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately W pursued D, final 7/11/07
