Seperated But Living Together

[kjensen]

Expect for every step closer, a step backwards. Your H is conflicted. He's not sure what he wants. One way to stay sane is to try to detach emotionally from your husband. Don't follow him on his emotional rollercoaster ride. Show love and compassion from a distance. Be wary of those hopeful moments. They'll keep coming and going for awhile. Definitely set boundaries and GAL. Focus on your kids.
And remember he is not holding all the cards even though it feels like that. You are an individual-you are not attached at the hip. Do what you need to do to get your needs fulfilled, to feel stable, calm and happy. It takes a lot of work, but if H knows that you are OK without him, you will seem to be of more value to him(b/c you are not a "sure thing"). He's controlling HIS future. You are controlling YOUR future. Those futures may be one and the same, but right now they are diverging-and one hard part of this journey is letting that divergence happen, knowing you might meet up down the road or you might not(and you WILL be OK if you don't).