I'm very sorry it's come to this, choc. I don't know what more you could have done.....
Dude .... if it's mutual (and it is, because "I want a separation and to be able to do whatever I please but still have you support me and provide childcare at night" is not an option in a sane universe) .... why in the name of all that is holy would YOU even CONSIDER moving in with HER parents???????
"Show me a completely smooth operation and I'll show you someone who's covering mistakes. Real boats rock." -- Frank Herbert