To be honest, I left the SSM board after the "Valentine's Day (2008) Purge," when so many people got banned (and others left voluntarily), and then mostly just because I became "atheist" on the subject. I don't believe there's really anything you can do, that's sustainable, when there are clashing libidos involved, unless BOTH partners are willing to work at it, and even then I saw very, very few success stories. I think you have to do a better job identifying someone's ideas about sexuality while dating, rather than think we're going to "fix" them later.
I know, I know, "we don't fix THEM, we fix OURSELVES, and then in the PROCESS . . . " LOL. But it's what I believe, so I resigned myself to a celibate marriage for as long as I thought I could endure it.
