Thank you guys so much for the advice. I am struggling very much right now and am trying to keep myself together especially since my kids are starting to show the effects its having on them. i just want to know that I have done everything I can for savign my marriage and making myself more knowledgeable with the situation. I did find a book that I feel has answered soem of my questions and given me a bigger hope towards doing all that I can. The book is called "Hope for the seperated" by Gary Chapman. I am returning to my faith and this book has helped me with my faith and and trying to do what I can, God willing to help my marriage. I did try to fond the book that Dance queen suggested but I have to special order it which I am. Thank you guys again. May God bless all of you and you are all in my prayers. I feel so much better knowing that I have the support on here.