So what if it drives her crazy and isn't ideal for her. Sorry... but - prepare for the worst. IMHO from the general reading I've done on your threads, I think the "amicable" divorce odds for you are maybe 50/50. Please don't comprimise your life in some sort of fantasy idea that she will appreciate it and recipricate. It is unlikely she will. Don't move - make her move. That way she gets the freedom to come and go out and you are able to stay in your house and provide stability for the kids.
Forget # 3 - this is now a divorce. Neither of you answer to each other or owe the other explanations. # 3 is an agreement for parent and kid - not divorcing husband and wife.
