Robx, great advice. This was an issue for me that I have changed and still catch myself from time to time. I make the plans now, and I never say I do not care, if I ask what she wants to do, and she says she doesn't care, I have a plan right after. I thought I was being considerate and nice, but she found it wimpy and non masculine.
Also, you said that women usually win arguments. I remember my wife complaining that after the bomb, she said that I always turned the argument around against her to make it sound like what she was doing was selfish, irresponsible and stupid. I told her that in 20 years together I had never ever won any argument until now, I told her maybe that her losing the recent arguments shows just how wrong she was.
I told my wife for this Friday, that we are going to the club for dinner and to listen to the band they are going to have there. I asked her if that sounds good. She said yes it does, I said great be ready by 6.
Women like that a bunch.
Burt
Hey Burt, I would have taken that even one step further, instead of asking her if that sounds good, I would have told her "We will have a good time, I think it will be fun" instead of asking her if that sounds good.
I think sometimes when we ask them for their opinion on too many things, it shows that we're indecisive, insecure and aren't confident to make decisions and subconsciously they may read that as being insecure and not confident. Don't get me wrong, asking for input is great but make it known that it does make a difference to you where you guys go, "it doesn't matter" doesn't really work well (at all).
