I'm very sorry to hear the news. From what I can tell, you did everything possible to save your marriage. You can hold your head up high infront of all who know you. You are a very giving person here on these boards, so I can only imagine how much more you gave to your wife. Unfortunately, you can't make her give back. I wish there was some magical way of doing that, but there isn't. I believe that God will carry you through this. Remember, "Blessed are they who mourn, for they shall be comforted." (Matt. 5:4)