Robx, great advice. This was an issue for me that I have changed and still catch myself from time to time. I make the plans now, and I never say I do not care, if I ask what she wants to do, and she says she doesn't care, I have a plan right after. I thought I was being considerate and nice, but she found it wimpy and non masculine.
Also, you said that women usually win arguments. I remember my wife complaining that after the bomb, she said that I always turned the argument around against her to make it sound like what she was doing was selfish, irresponsible and stupid. I told her that in 20 years together I had never ever won any argument until now, I told her maybe that her losing the recent arguments shows just how wrong she was.
I told my wife for this Friday, that we are going to the club for dinner and to listen to the band they are going to have there. I asked her if that sounds good. She said yes it does, I said great be ready by 6.
