[quote=dburt]...She started it by saying "Lets go out tomorrow night because I know you wanted to get together". I told her that I didn't mind either way and that we can go out only if it is what she wants. She said that she want to go out, so I said ok and left it there. She said that she will call me back to finalize the plans.
OK, I'm going to point out another behavior that you have to change (and yes it's a male behavior that you have to change). When you say you don't mind either way, it's another way of saying "it doesn't matter to me" as long as you like it.
That's approval seeking, subconsciously that shows insecurity.
The new attitude you will have going forward is... "IT DOES MATTER TO ME"
This attitude is going to apply to going out with her or when you're by yourself or with friends. When you're shopping for yourself, when you're buying food, when you're taking a drive somewhere, when someone asks your opinion.
It does matter to you.
Let me explain another reason why. Being an attractive man to women and specifically to your wife means being dominant & "manly" (I know it sounds stupid but it really isn't).
You want to be someone who shows leadership skills, takes the lead, has a plan, knows where he is going in life. It shows you're confident, dominant (dominant in a secure, confident way). When you say it doesn't matter to you or you don't mind either way, it shows a lack of leadership skills, women are attracted to men who take the lead, have a plan, know where they're going - it makes them feel secure and takes the pressure off of them to lead and plan as much.
It's an attractive quality to possess and an easy change to make on your end. Catch yourself when you're about to say "it doesn't matter to me" and "I don't mind either way". It does matter to you, you mind because the choice is important to you.
It shows that you are self-assured, have a purpose, confident, ambitious, etc. These are all things that women are attracted to and I'm guessing by the one statement above that it may be a regular thing that comes out of your mouth. It's ok because you know better now and this is about tweaking your behaviors and making you look more attractive to your wife and more importantlyl feel better about yourself.
You wouldn't think a small detail like this matters but think about this, your wife has told you in some form or fashion that she has been dropping off subtle clue & hints about her being unhappy for a long period of time and she would have noticed these small clues, time to drop some subtle hints of your own because apparently she will notice.
