When the Teacher Becomes the Student

[AlexEN]

Puppy,

So sorry to hear this news. I have the same feelings as when I read what you wrote back in December. We were all so hopeful for you in the intervening time and it's difficult when you just can't fix it. But, know this, you have the respect of many, many, many people who post to these boards and there will be someone out there who will value your traits and meet your emotional needs. You are a wise, compassionate and kind man. You have done everything you possibly could for the sake of your family, your marriage and for you. Despite my occasional antipathy for the species, my IC pointed out to me once that there will be a "right side and a wrong side of history". Once this has played itself out completely, and not that it's a matter of oneupsmanship with your wife, you will have your children's everlasting respect. While I hope your wife can address her issues at some point, if she cannot, she risks losing even more than your love, and that is her relationship with her own children. For you that will remain intact...

Best to you,

Alex

P.S. I'm wrestling with this same in-house issue, so I know how gutwrenching it is...