Ok, what the hell!! So my attorney called me back regarding starting the D. Based on her research and mine, filing on the grounds of adultery is hard in NY. She came up with another alternative which I like, filing on the grounds of cruel and unusal treatment. We discussed all that we I need to evidence etc. However, she then told me the price of starting the case $10-15k, with a $4.5k retainer. OMG, I don't have that kind of money right now. I've been living from check to check. There is no way I can come up with that kind of money. She said she would work with me if I don't have all the retainer right away. But damn, does a divorce really cost that much? And to be honest I am not even willing to sacrifice all the little $$ I do have for a divorce I don't really want. Does anyone know of any other options available to me? Can I process it by myself?
A contested D will cost a lot, but check with your attorney on suing your H for reimbursement. You can spend as much as you want if you have kids involved.
Sometimes, an uncontested D is fine if you don't have any major disagreements. As much as we'd like to light a fire under the WAS, a contested D is not always the best option if you have decided to file.
I've spent nearly $7,000 myself just getting revved up.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
