That's the thing. My intuition tells me that W is in a fog and not making rational decisions, and is trying to get me to go along with D so she doesn't come across as the "bad guy". I won't go along with it, if there is going to be a D, it's all on her, and I will not help move the process along at all.
Then don't do it. Stick to your guns on this. If she goes through with it...let it all be on her. Divorce is not best for our kids. They don't have a say so in a decision that will greatly affect their lives for the rest of their lives.
Just a thought...most people don't question their lifelong committment to their children. Regardless of the rough spots, depression, and disillusionment we experience as a result of our lives with our children...nobody would ever think of divorcing their children. That's absurd. We learn to roll with punches. People have committed, all-forgiving attitudes toward their children...but when their spouses don't live up to their expectations...divorce is considered as an option!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
