Swimming upstream...PH #7

[pearlharbr]

Thanks for the support Kenn. Yes, I understand men and women have different communication styles and understand things differently. A large point of embarrassment for me in this whole sitch is that I was a communication major in college and worked in communications and marketing. I understand it in my professional life so why was it so lacking in my personal life?

When I am trying to make a point to him I always try to be very clear and specific and speak to the male mind. I can't keep track of how many times I have said, "I don't believe your words because you have proven yourself to be a liar. The only thing I will believe is your actions." But for some reason he thought there was no point in stepping up. He was waiting to hear me say yes, I am willing to work on this relationship. But I was waiting for him to show me that yes, he is willing to work on this relationship.

So he emailed again late last night. More flirty, chatty stuff and asked if I would like to do something Sat night. My immediate response is to reply with the same tone but then I second guess myself and don't know what to do. Am I just falling back into the comfortable friend zone too quickly and easily? Or do we need to be there before we start tackling the hard stuff?

My advice to you on the "in love" line is to let it go. You can't go back and change your response so why worry about it? Put it on a shelf with all the other wacky things, both negative and positive, she throws at you. Leave it on the shelf until you're in a position to review everything as a whole.