Peeling the Onion

[Bagheera]

Shifting from my thread to LuckyGirl's;

You know I have to ask this, Lucky;

Type 7: The Enthusiast
Basic Desire: to be happy
Basic Fear: of being deprived

So....were you 'deprived' of happiness, adventure, experiences as a child in some way?

Oh sure. Squeaky clean, Catholic, "good girl", Old Country Italian crap. Constant riding, constant finger pointing at the trashy neighbors, lots of praise of individuals who were "exemplary".

I was always trying to bust out or rebel in some way....

Not to put too much emphasis on this 'personality typing' stuff, which is, by necessity, a gross oversimplication (or characature) of a highly-complex persona, but something from the description for your type, Lucky, stood out to me:

Text taken from here.


"In the healthy state, the need to be happy induces Type Sevens to explore the world and genuinely appreciate what they find. They derive great happiness as a result, thus their need is satisfied and a balance is reached.

In the average state, when Sevens' are not exploring and appreciating the world, they become restless and unhappy. The the need to be happy increases, which helps Sevens to again reach out to the world and find things to appreciate. Thus the balancing loop can help Sevens to recover.

In the unhealthy state, the basic fear of being being deprived can cause Type Sevens to numbly seek new and different sensations and adventures without truly appreciating the experience. This means they will derive little happiness from all the highs, which further increases Sevens' feeling of emptiness and basic fear of being deprived. The cycle continues to build up."


Place the above in the context of your sexual relationship. Would it be fair to say that since you've been hanging out with us here, you've moved from the 'Unhealthy' state to at least the "Average' state? Still restless and unhappy, but no longer 'numb'?

-- B.