Even though my personal wealth is next to zero since the divorce, I'd bet all I've got (save my D) that he's depressed. Depression runs in my family, so I'm on anti-depressants myself and I felt a similar "lack of passion for anything" prior to seeing my doctor about it.
Can you call his IC and have a chat? They can't reveal any information, but they can and will listen and take notes on what you tell them. It is often used in their therapy w/the patients and they are able to make it seem as if the patient has oome up w/these discoveries on their own.
It couldn't hurt, even if you've done it before, to schedule some time to either call or go in to see the IC and give them the update of what H has told you, how he acts w/you and your concerns.
Good Morning friends, I hope everybody is OK. I was/am so sad reading about LOla's loss. Life has its way to quiet us down...
On H: I am not sure he is depressed. If what I see now is depression, he has been depressed ever since I met him. But that's not the fact. Because we did have good times, loving times, I remember him calling me his woman, being very loving, very caring, laughing, enjoying trips, parties, etc etc.
The way I see it, is that my H thinks life is what it is, and he finds it difficult, almost impossible to try to change/improve situations. He never initiates changes. Part of why I was shocked when he decided to leave me and the reason why I believe he got his motive/initiative from the OW. He takes life as it comes, loves routine, stable and safe careful moves and no adrenaline. The only time he looks excited is when he throws his famous fits...
I dont know if there is a use for me to analyse him. I can imagine, think, make up stories, explain, justify, excuse etc etc, but if HE doesnt realise life is wonderful and that he is choosing not to enjoy it and that I am not willing anymore to do the same, there is no hope for "a happily ever after". Think about it: What do I want? I want hugs and kisses, to go out for dinner with my H, to be able to share my fears and anxieties, to have dreams, have good times, ML... Is that too much to ask when you are 38?
Ali, I am not issueing any ultimatums this week. But since we will spend more time together, I will try to be in a good mood and enjoy myself. I will try to have fun with my babies and family and him if he wants to.
I have this feeling that this summer, things will be different. K
Hi couz, well, my hair will be longer for one I am loosing weight and probably will feel good about my body again I'll start using a bicycle, my kids have their own and I will be borrowing my SiL's and go for rides by the sea twice a week My finances sitch will be MUCH better. I am closing the one of my 2 cards tomorrow and in another 4 months I will close the other one too... (yeah!!!) Hmmm, what else?
All that sounds great! Wow bicycle riding by the Mediteranean...with your kids! Do you even realize how may people (myself included) just had a twinge of jealousy run through them as they read that???? That is another activity I need to incorporate with D8,,,,minus the sea of course.
John, honestly, if you knew what kind of weather we have here, you would be green with envy!! It's not the heat, its the temp as well, but mostly it is how blue and clear the sky is, not humid at all, the sea is blue green, not "boiling", refreshing...
I've been to many places, never liked anything better than the Greek islands and our sea. I guess that's why our neighbours want some of them K
OH! Count me in! Greece is one of the places in the world that I dream of not only visiting, but living in. Such a beautiful place full of history and culture. *sigh*
K, you sound so good today. It's like you've turned another corner. Good for you sister!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
