Can anyone answer this? Part 5

[peacetoday]

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some mlcers are dropouts--they want no contact
some are dropins- wanting constact

I found this site 1 month after bomb so I started detaching validating ect..that created a nice friendship right away --and we have 2 kids so it allowed H to visit 4x weekly..we had many nice talks during those months and years
but it wasnt real
it was one sided with me doing all the giving and work--H was lieing living with ow the whole time
My xh went to therapy a handful of times with me , but he was already in A and didnt reveal that part
so
I didnt snoop,,i trusted it would end
but it didnt end and XH is still living wiyth ow
my XH is a mess..he is anything but content-on meds..weight gain..liar, and in big debt
and opposite everything I thought he was
I never met her, but she has not helped him become a better man
only helped his fall
I only found this out a few months ago when my X busted our business,,I found credit cards statements dating back to before bomb of A..a lease for 2 adults ect
so I confronted XH and he admitted his secret life and A
prior to all that, XH lied and said he was living with Bill, a friend and I never checked
the main thing is to take care of you and son
move ahead in your life
find hobbies
make new freinds
do your hair
take dance or music lessons
let H go
It is his loss and he WILL not find what he is looking for
but you might
peace