WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 7

[confusedinpa]

She got back home and said that she had wanted to call me but her cellphone battery died. She asked if I had wanted to talk

I said that I was surprised when she called me to tell me she told the boys by herself. I told her I felt that it was unfair and disrespectful. I said that I didn't mean to say anything that offended her, but I felt this was something that we should have done together. I told her that the one thing we are on the same page is that we are both passionate about our kids.

She said that she wanted to tell them yesterday but was frustrated that I didn't want to. She said she felt that I wanted to lie to the kids, which she didn't agree with. I said I wished she would have said that yesterday. I agree that we shouldn't lie to the kids, but she could have said that we would talk about it once daddy got home

We wound up talking about communication and we seem to be getting better at it. She said we're definitely talking more but doesn't feel that we are able to reach conclusions. She agreed that we seem definitely more comfortable in saying things.

She said that in the past she felt that if she said something that made me mad, I would do things/act in a way to make her uncomfortable. I said if I did that it was unintentional and she should have called me out on it.

So goes another evening. Sounds like she's going move on Sat now. I told her that I will not be around and will be taking the boys shopping for furniture to replace what she's taking out of the playroom. She said she understood.

So I finally got really angry.
I have a feeling it won't be the last time