Need Help handling affair thats still going on

[kjensen]

Thanks Peace and BM,
I did end up going home for lunch, 30 minutes later than usual(surprised H a bit) b/c I was exhausted and needed a nap-which I got. Didn't really talk to H too much-just went in my room and slept.

Tonight I had bookclub, but saw H briefly. He shared his day with me-seemed kind of down. I listened and empathized. I shared that I felt when things settle in his mind, he'll be able to sleep-his body will follow suit. He said he'll probably sleep 6 months straight then.. Overall OK day re: interactions with H.

I know I'm still not clear what my path with H is, but I appreciate the variety of experiences and advice given. I think I'm headed somewhere in the middle...I know I am detaching more emotionally-I had an urge to drive by OW's house on the way home to see if H's car was there, but didn't. That's not who I want to be-the rejected/clingy spouse. Realized it really wouldn't change a thing one way or the other whether he was there or not. Don't really think he is there during the week anyway, but who knows.