Need Help handling affair thats still going on

[peacetoday]

K
I also believe for a lot of us lbs, we are the ones to push the MLCer out
MY XH was also happy to visit the home 4x a week to see kids
we spent many hours in conversations where the R was also one sided
me supporting, caring, listening ect
It always hurt when we connected emptionally and XH left
I was the one to tell H to file
I also went dim to iniate less contact to get him moving one way or the other
he moved toward the OW..finally when she became out in open
that is OK
as I kept my head in the sand for 2 years..my H hardly moved
I changed and became the best wife possible under these conditions
I felt inconditional love for H and did all I could to be there
It didnt bring him home
so
now I am detached
we are D
He has let go and so have I
we never know what will happen
many stories are similar and many different
some return, others never
all you can do is try techniques and then cjange modify what may work
but with the mlcer
usually not much works unless they can find therapy and work it thru
peace