Hey K, why did you tell him you wouldnt see him at lunch? Just curious. You dont need to tell him what you are doing during the day. You just go about your business unless it is something that he needs to know regarding the children.
My h stayed in the home for 19 months post bomb with me gently nudging him to move forward if that was what he kept saying he wanted. I finally could not move forward and db with him coming and going as he pleased (he would go away half the week) so I told him he has to go. Might not be what you are comfortable with but it was necessary for ME. I didnt worry about what it meant or if it was going to help us or make him come back. |
Do what feels right for you. Put the emphasis on you and your kids and not on whether it is going to make him change his mind. You keep saying the splitting of the bank accounts are going to make you more separated. Just go and do it. Open up an account in your name and start to put some money in it.
K, do what makes you happy. Let h blow in the wind right now. He needs to figure it all out on his own. | DOnt run anything by him regarding your life. Just live it.
