Don't sell the dreams you should be keeping......

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Lisa...

I've been thinking about your sitch, with CEO and what you can do or could do.. and I was thinking.. why dont you just ASK HIM?

I was trying to put myself in your shoes and imagine how it might feel.. and this sitch with CEO has been rumbling on for a long while. But you do hold your cards pretty close to your chest and are quite private, even here with us strangers in this 'safe' place.. so have you considered that HE may be confused? That HE may think you are the most annoying woman in teh world!? That he doesnt want to look an *rse by asking you out as he just cant judge whether you really are interested in him, or not?

And whats this about him being a chaser? From my outsiders perspective, he has chased you relentlessly since last year but you havent given him an inch! You used to dress up for work all the time (for lunches with H/PMA).. flirt with CEO (for practice for H flirting).. etc, all that DBing stuff you were focusing on, whilst getting closer to him.

I was once a bit in your sheos..it was different as it was my EA OM, but we worked together and he was my 'boss' or lead programmer and I fancied him like mad and we would flirt, and fight and he didnt like me talking to other guys at work and it was all very similiar, lots of chemistry and wierdness but working together on important projects.. well, in the end, I decided to just be honest and to hell with it. It was very embarressing for me, but he once asked me something (much like CEO makes personal/M related remarks) and I took a deep breath and apologised to him, said I'm sorry if this embarresses you, or upsets you, or you are offended by this.. but I have to tell you that I do find you attractive and I know its awful because we work together and I'm sorry if I've made you uncomfortable (and we had partners of course, so there was all that too).. anyway, turns out he fancied me like mad too.. so thats how that one went.

I just wondered.. you have never even suggested it here, but have you not considered just taking a chance, a deep breath, s*d DBing and whose chasing who and just TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL??? Whats the worst that could happen?

- its embarresing
- he says no sorry, I'd rather M a dirty sock, than you
- yes but we work together (so you;d have to get a new job)
- you'd lose face/lose a friend

OR

- he is SO relieved someone has broken the wall and spoken up and finally he gets to hear what he has been waiting for, that you WANT him and he doesnt have to risk all, being your boss and humiliate himself by overstepping the boss-employee thing ?
- you get to live in the big house and have his babies...?

I think I'd plump for being honest.. as we all know, life is too short...

Al x