I've been thinking about your sitch, with CEO and what you can do or could do.. and I was thinking.. why dont you just ASK HIM?
I was trying to put myself in your shoes and imagine how it might feel.. and this sitch with CEO has been rumbling on for a long while. But you do hold your cards pretty close to your chest and are quite private, even here with us strangers in this 'safe' place.. so have you considered that HE may be confused? That HE may think you are the most annoying woman in teh world!? That he doesnt want to look an *rse by asking you out as he just cant judge whether you really are interested in him, or not?
And whats this about him being a chaser? From my outsiders perspective, he has chased you relentlessly since last year but you havent given him an inch! You used to dress up for work all the time (for lunches with H/PMA).. flirt with CEO (for practice for H flirting).. etc, all that DBing stuff you were focusing on, whilst getting closer to him.
I was once a bit in your sheos..it was different as it was my EA OM, but we worked together and he was my 'boss' or lead programmer and I fancied him like mad and we would flirt, and fight and he didnt like me talking to other guys at work and it was all very similiar, lots of chemistry and wierdness but working together on important projects.. well, in the end, I decided to just be honest and to hell with it. It was very embarressing for me, but he once asked me something (much like CEO makes personal/M related remarks) and I took a deep breath and apologised to him, said I'm sorry if this embarresses you, or upsets you, or you are offended by this.. but I have to tell you that I do find you attractive and I know its awful because we work together and I'm sorry if I've made you uncomfortable (and we had partners of course, so there was all that too).. anyway, turns out he fancied me like mad too.. so thats how that one went.
I just wondered.. you have never even suggested it here, but have you not considered just taking a chance, a deep breath, s*d DBing and whose chasing who and just TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL??? Whats the worst that could happen?
- its embarresing - he says no sorry, I'd rather M a dirty sock, than you - yes but we work together (so you;d have to get a new job) - you'd lose face/lose a friend
OR
- he is SO relieved someone has broken the wall and spoken up and finally he gets to hear what he has been waiting for, that you WANT him and he doesnt have to risk all, being your boss and humiliate himself by overstepping the boss-employee thing ? - you get to live in the big house and have his babies...?
I think I'd plump for being honest.. as we all know, life is too short...
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Mishka, Lisa is knitting as fast as she can, but turning the heels is a bit tricky and the point is Jeff has to cross the pond in person to collect them. Maybe if he does he will find it a bit too hot to wear them Well thats my dream, not sure about Lisa but as she hasn't replied I thought I'd just make a reply up.
I don't want him to be wearing socks- I just want to see him get out of them
Ali- interesting points- thankyou for thinking about me and I'll definitely think about them.
I'm just running off to choir. CEO and I went to a posh rooftop restaurant with our lawyers today. It was lovely, and a beautiful day in London but I ate too much and am feeling really tired.
Meanwhile I made 60% profit on a share trade- I'm so happy about it- it was my first ever attempt and CEO had told me not to buy them (he used to be a top rated investment analyst prior to coming here so it's particularly satisfying LOL). And the papers are winging their way to H. Progress!
That is a fabulous looking restaurant! How was the food? Did you even taste it with CEO and his square jaw staring at you, probably drooling over himself?
No one is making a profit in the markets anymore. How the heck did you do it? 60%! That's HUGE!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
