The longer I try to reconcile and it does not work, the more pain I will experience.
Then STOP doing it! Stop doing what doesn't work, and start doing what does work. We need to think with our heads instead of our hearts. It goes against how we feel, that's for sure. But we gotta do what works, and stop doing what doesn't work. You've already said yourself that what you're doing is not working!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
