On the topic of the man yanking off her panties...
I had been thinking a bit ago about the phenomenon where women tend to think that men should "just know" what turns her on, and therefore many women tend to never learn how to tell or show a man what she needs, as she is continually stuck with the impression that he should "just know".
Now I still think that this is incorrect and men do not "just know" and women need to be in touch enough with themselves to tell their man what they need....however....
I am thinking that this feeling that women have that men should "just know" IS FACTUAL on a certain level. Because the thing is, what women want is for a man to take her, and doesn't a man always want to just take a woman? Doesn't a man have to learn how NOT to take a woman, how to fight his sexual urges and never push himself upon a woman sexually? He has to LEARN this because his body "just knows" that it wants to take the woman. And a woman knows that a man "just knows" that he wants to take her. So when he doesn't take her, even now within a committed relationship when he is supposed to be free to take her as he wants (within respectful limits)...she ends up feeling discouraged and disappointed when he DOESN'T just take her. She knows instinctively that HIS instincts are what should guide their sexual encounters, not hers. Her job is to be receptive and to not get hurt in the process of him taking her.
To put it this way...
When my man starts making eyes at me in the way that says he is about to take me, and further when he starts pushing his body up against mine or roughly making out with me, I immediately start getting physically aroused and wet. My BODY KNOWS what it is supposed to do. Even if my mind is still on "gee, I'm not sure if we have time before I have to leave for work", my body is already gearing up, in response to the fact that a stronger male is giving me signals that he is going to "just take" me. This message tells my body to get physically aroused and wet, because if it doesn't, I can get hurt. So my body is doing me this favor by being ready for it physically, whether I am emotionally or not.
But we can't fake this dynamic. It only happens when his body is truly coming at me to take me, and my body truly responds to his intent. If we are just pretending and I know that he has to rush out the door and isn't going to take me, even if he is roughly making out with me or talking dirty like he might, my body won't respond in the same way. My body knows the difference based on HIS TRUE intent.
So in thinking back in the past and when I believed naively that men should "just know" what turns a woman on... I think it was not so far off base after all. Men really DO "just know", they have just been trained NOT to follow through on what they "just know". But they do, in fact, know it.
