I'm so sorry that Mrs. Baggy experienced abuse. It absolutely SUCKS that so many people are violated, suffering mental anguish for years to come. It is an outrage. When I hear more and more about abuse victims, I am disheartened to think about the reality of the general status of mental health in our world. Real, raw tragedy.
That said, I am so impressed with Mrs. Baggy's ability and willingness to move forward. She knows that she has a special man at her side, and she's fighting to keep you there.
You are forcing light to be shed on a very dark part of her psyche. That light is a huge gift to her, aside from what it does for your M. This is an opportunity for her to heal further and to become a happier, healthier woman and wife. Your love for her is beautiful.