Glad to hear that you had such a good time with D1. Gosh, your wife sure doesn't know how she is depriving your D from having a great dad living at home.
Hey, your post made me wonder if since we all cope with our sitch in different ways, maybe your focus on the legal process of divorce and being in war mode allows you to suppress the hurt and disappointment that we all feel.
But I agree with Pup, you already know what she's up to. She doesn't need to admit anything.
Also, personally I think that you should not expose to extended family etc. I feel it will backfire and make you look bitter. Someone once told me a saying: It's not the situation, its your reaction to the situation, Strange enough, if your reaction is not of the best its funny that you will end up looking like the bad guy. IMHO.
Hey, by the way, it seems like I do need your expertise though on how to get evidence to prove adultery.