Puppy, Didn't get into that over the weekend. My plan is to see a lawyer this week and find out spousal support...give her that money that she is entitled to and stop paying for her stuff. So in essence, I won't pay for her car, insurance, cell, etc.... She called last night and wanted to talk about everything with us and after awhile I just kinda laid it all out there for her. Told her that the thing with OM was disrespectful to me on a number of levels and that I can't honestly support that. Basically, put the ball in her court to make a choice. Told her in so many words that she's going to lose one of us and she has to decide. She asked what my plan was and I told her it was to find out legally what the options are and then set up a time for us to talk to a mediator as I still want this to be civil. If she chooses to break ties with OM then the going forward can be put on hold but if not then I have to do what is right for me and our D and to protect us. She started in about how she was trying to move slowly with all this and all and how she didn't mean to disrespect me and didn't go out to find OM and I just told her I didn't think she purposefully went to find someone else but that she allowed it to happen and that was still wrong. By the end of the conversation she was backpeddaling and contradicting herself on a lot of issues and I just told her that it was late and we should stop talking about it while we were both tired and emotional. I don't know if it was the right thing to do or not but I feel a lot better about it now that it is all out there and she knows where I stand and what my plans are. She has the choice to make now and she has to live with that choice. I know that I am better than OM. I also know that if she continues on the path she is on that it will suck but I'll get through it and I'll be happy in my life again and that D3 and I will be ok. So it was a trying weekend but at least things are moving in a direction now and not stuck in a holding state that nobody wants to be in.
