One other thing, so I contacted my lawyer on Friday to discuss getting the D started. We talked about what grounds I have available for me. She said that I want to file on the grounds of infedility, which I wholehearted do. That is what it so. So she said that is harder because I will need proof. DCHM, I need you advice here on getting evidence. She's looking into what proof I will need though. I told here that H has a son with OW but technically the child was conceived before the M. And also the problem is that H has kept all his mail still at home. Also, H never admits to living with OW, he also dodges the question. So I need advice here on what proof will be need and how should I go about getting that proof.
She also told me that the easiest grounds to file for is abandonemnet but I would have to wait for a year of H being gone before I could file. So she thinks we need something in place sooner than that since all the financial issues. I don't want to have to go this route. H abanded me b/c of the A. Let him have to face the fire and to be accountable for his actions.
