Hope every had a Happy and Peaceful Easter!!! Easter was great for me, spent it with my family and brought MIL and FIL over for dinner with us.
I even went to a night club with my girlfriend on Friday night. Had a blast.
So update on what I've been up to lately with H. I'm still having a problem putting in place the no communication thing. On Saturday, we had a rental at our place and I took care of it and just sent H a text that I left their insurance $ stored in the office for him to return to the renter. Then on Sat night when the renter finished apparently she called H to come back to lck up and he didn't answer so she called me. I then called H to see if he is going to take care of it b/c it was 11:30 at night and I have my brother, niece, and nephews over and just didn't feel like having to drive over there at that time of the night. So H answered and said he'll take care of it. We had a pleasant conversation. He first told me that he went to a nightclub on the Friday night with his cousin who was his bestman and I was able to tell him that I ran into his friend at the nightclub I went to on Fri night. It was great being able to let him know that I am having a good tome. He said something to the effect of oh you had fun, uhh? So, I tried to be the first to hang up on him, ie to be the first to end the convo, but he was in a talking mood and asked are you busy, can't you talk? So we talked some more briefly and then I ended the talk. He then called back again to talk some more and it was a pleasant conversation but I ended it again.
Then today, I been on the calling spree to H, funny how I am more aware of these things. I had to call H to discuss the bldg because I need to offer my father a place to live there temporary - long story short my father is homeless basically and no one is willing to take him in since he was a walk away dad and I'm the only one with a place to offer and to have him not live with any of us. Anyway, H gave his ok, but I told him that I am coming to him for his ok because I want to give him the respect since it is his 50% that he would be staying in as well. Then I called H back because I forgot to discuss $ stuff with him. He is suppose to transfer weekly money to me to pay his expenses that we have in joint names but he has not given anything even for this month. So he said oh I will this week and I told him that a payment is due by the 15th can he transfer before then. And I said, look we need to get some sort of legal separation in place or something so that the $$ can even be coming from you check or something. Anyway, as usual H cops a terrible attitude especially when he knows he is wrong and is not getting things to go his was. So I hanged up th phone, I didn't need to hear that. Then I called back but he went into he knows it hard on me and I'm just doing all these things and that I should just bring the D papers and he will signed it, blah, blah. I said what I am just trying to protect myself and that he needs to work on the fact that when he knows very well that he's wrong he gets the worse attitude. And of course he used his primary weapon: "look, I feel like I'm not going to come back home." I guess that was suppose to make me weak and fall to his feet and just give in and say no you don't have bills to pay, just come home and be with me and I will have no demands or expectations from you just as long as you're with me. Yea right. So we hanged up and I texted him: "U need to ask yourself the question are u really welcomed back home?"
And yes people I know, NC beats getting into these silly arguments. But I need my money from this guys. I've moved on to reading the book, "The Art of Happiness" by the Dalai Lama and I'm just not going to make any of this today make me unhappy. Why bother give into H's silly games.
