After everything though, I feel kind of sad. As much as I hate to admit it my feelings for W are a liability. The emotion makes it difficult for me not to want to confront her on the A until getting the truth out of her. Or reasoning with her. All of which I know is pointless.
DC,
I certainly can empathize with these kinds of thoughts, but really -- what purpose would it serve? Don't you pretty much know "the truth" anyway???
fwiw, I did, in my situation, finally re-confront my wife at about the 60-day mark, and insist that she stop lying about me to her parents and our daughters, and that if she DIDN'T stop, I would share my evidence of her affair with them. I figured I couldn't stop her from lying about her affair, but I damned sure was going to make sure she stopped lying about me.
