You are only there if you want to be. You are being dealt some hard blows and it is normal at times to feel these things. You will come out of it because you are a warm wonderful person. Because you don't want your life to be defined by this miserable experience.
Hurting people hurt others, especially people who have deep unresolved issues. The deeper the issues, the more hurt they have to expel.
Is this mature, no way. They have not matured and have to go through many years of growing up. You did not cause this and you can't change this.
One of the most wonderful things someone said to me was, don't fight loving them, always love them. Just because you can't be with them, touch them, talk to them, see them, you can still love them. No one can ever take that away from you. Not even other woman.
Trusting...
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
