Need to make changes for me (thread #2)

[Beans]

Vickyd,
Don't be so hard on yourself for having to lock yourself in a room. Like you said at least you didn't make out with him like you would of before. You know what you need to do, now you just need to find your strenth and do it!

My H is moving full speed ahead with the A and not trying to be a cake eater at all. It makes it easier to detach, but it hurts just the same. He is still playing games, just a different kind. I feel like I love him and hate him at the same time. If that's possible?

My Lawyer said the same thing about a seperation being the same as a D. Do you wonder if you want to go down that road? You need to protect yourself financially, but at the same time don't believe in it. I am at the same place as you on that. My H said he can't give me as much money as he has been. But then I find out he's taking unpaid time off to be with OW. And taking her out to eat and movies! Ahg!

I did get the Steve Harvey book also. I really liked it! It's time to find our voice and do what is right for US! I know, I know, easier said then done.