The advice you are getting here is spot-on. Loving detachment is really the only way to deal with the WAS, even though it is counter-intuitive.
I have a good friend who told me in college that he never wanted to have kids, ever, and he meant it! He said that he would be a horrible father because he had had a horrible father and he never wanted to inflict that kind of abuse on another human being.
Fast forward 10 years, and guess what? He is happily married with two little kids and home and he would not trade them for the world. When I mused to him a few months ago what he had told me back then, the claims that he never said that. Funny how selective memory works, isn't it?
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
