New to the world of adultery

[FitChik]

I hope I have not upset you as I only want you to not worry about your situation or decisions in this particular case. I'm just trying to be helpful if I can be.

This betrayal will certainly take time to get over. It won't happen over night. But you were growing so strong in your faith and I believe you still are. Do your faith for yourself. Someone told me to make God #1 and S #2. Otherwise you can fall into the trap of only focusing on your faith for your S and you aren't really focusing for you and your own salvation. Of course have faith that God can heal and fix all things. And certainly pray for it. But also remember that God gives everyone free will. And its unfortunate how some people choose to use it.

Kevin,

Thanks for your insight. You have not upset me at all! You also clearly have a strong faith and have given me many words of wisdom to think about.

I have told my H the biggest thing I regret is not putting God first in our R. I got swept away with my H and put him before God for many months. The only sure way to succeed is to put God first.

If our D does go through, I believe it is due to free will and not God's will. I believe He can create good out of the situation... however it is not His will that we D. It's hard walking through blind and solely trusting God for the outcome. That is what I am doing but it's challenging to say the least :-).