Although xanax is a short term treatment for depression/anxiety, maybe you should inquire about a more true anti-depresant like Lexipro or the like (prozac type). It takes a little while to kick in, but afterwards you can really deal with a bunch of stuff. Although it is a bitch to get off of, when things do settle down, it can really help with the right now.
Also, just be friends with this girl and I say this girl to make you think that she is just a girl, one of millions. You would not talk about an R with a friend or someone that you are just beginning to date. Try this mindset.
