Good to hear from you. I agree with pearl, what you did was good. This is all very difficult, I know that, but you will make it through this. I think it's important that your W doesn't think you are happy that she's gone, but at the same time you don't want to appear depressed and miserable when she sees you. You want to look like the man she once was convinced she loved. Be a positive force in her life, not a negative one. This is hard and will take time, but you can do it. Towards the end of my separation I had started having really pleasant times with my W, all the while letting her know in a calm and gentle way that I remained committed to her and our marriage. I don't know if that works for everyone, but I do know that in my situation my W needed to know that I had not "moved" on with my life w/out her.
Feelings of vindication are perfectly normal and nothing to feel ashamed of, just be careful they don't consume you or cause you to be nasty to your W. Also, be very careful with what you discuss with mutual friends. I made the mistake of sharing too much of our problems with friends/relatives, and now even though we're back together some of those relationships remain dammaged.
Definitely try to do things that will fill your time and allow you a chance to grow and reflect on yourself.
