Just thought it would be worth jumping in quickly as your H sounds a little like how mine was. When my H first dropped the bomb, he would use statements like "nothing makes me happy" etc. Later he also said that he has never been happy (not just with me-in life in general). Whether my H will ever admit it or not, he definitely had clinical depression.
I guess I just want to say that they can work through this and get that passion back(if they want to), but the timeframe may be a lot longer than you would like. My H did everything right-started jogging 5 days a week, quit drinking, read self-help books etc. to "fix himself". He also started seeing a Psychotherapist, which he has been doing for about 8 months now. He now has more energy and life than I would have ever thought possible again, BUT he is still not back to "normal". It seems he is still working through his demons, and this is a man who, IMO, has done everything for himself that he possibly could have throughout this process. So it is definitely possible for your H to get his passion back, IMO, but the process would likely be slow...
RTL asked if he is still seeing the IC. Is he doing this? If so, do you have any idea what kind of treatment/therapy she is recommending for him? While it definitely sounds like he has issues to work through, I know in some cases medication can help with the mode immediate effects of depression. This is something my H never did, but I always wondered if he should have.
Sorry that you have to deal with this frustrating situation. I really hope that Ali is right about May being a turning point. Just a couple more weeks to go in that case...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
