I groaned. \:\) Seriously though I understand how you feel. Any attempt by my husband to contact me just fills me up. It is usually only in regard to something I have had to contact him about first though. It appears that you are going to have to be the 180 for this relationship to work. Your wife appears to want someone that she respects and she only respects you when you stand up and show her how strong you are. Which is hard for someone who wants to be loving and caring and a people pleaser. I hope she opens her eyes and sees her role in all of this.

"It is excruciating pain. It is the pain of separation, the pain of loss, the pain of dreams and expectations unrealized. It is the loss and death of a mirage."