If the opportunity arrives again for me to speak with xh, and it will probably be on the phone, how should I act? Should he ask to speak with you, unless someone has died, I would decline. You're not in control enough. And under NO circumstances should YOU call HIM.
Since we are divorced already can I voice my opinion when he says something mean or negative? Sure, you can do that. If you want to continue giving him reasons to hate you. Just say "I'm sorry you feel that way". I honestly do not think you should be on the phone with him or in his presence though so this shouldn't even happen... When he starts with the "how I am doing things differently this time", should I tell him exactly how I feel or should I try and validate and be nice. In other words try to be happy for him. We are already divorced so tell me why I can not just tell him what I think about him? 1) Because he doesn't give a damn and 2) because although it might make you feel better for a moment, ultimately you're only going to feel worse. And you're also going to come off like a bitter, jilted ex. Why give him and his girl the pleasure??? It is just pointless to waste your breath.
In a nutshell, my opinion is that you should not talk to him or about him to anyone. Save it all for here. The town you live in is too damn small and there are just too many gossips.
