Thinker thanks for responding to my post, i am pretty sure there is not another man but i can only go by what she has told me i believe her when she tells me that she is not seeing anyone else. i am really putting my stones in the barrel that she is overly stressed out about school and work and tired of taking care of me. I am totally commited to changing my ways it has been to long and as much as i want to call her right now i am forcing myself not to. i am considering getting phone conferences from DB to see if that will help my situation. I am totally new at this since i have been with this woman since i was 15 years old. I am gonna do everything i can to make her notice i want to change but that is the hard part trying to NC and her know im working on changing when she is 400 miles away.