12-24 beers a week sounds like alcohol 'abuse' from my healthcare perspective, especially for a woman...She may be self-medicating if this is a new, developing habit. Can't be good on the liver or stomach or heart or...!
KJ, I would agree her drinking pattern constitutes self-medication. She doesn't seem to drink mindfully, but compulsively, like how she smokes.
I can't put my finger on her R with the OP. It doesn't seem like a torrid love affair. Maybe he's a platonic friend, and there's another OP. It's hard not to try and make sense of it, when it's under your nose.
He's going thru a D, and is in the process of selling his farm, and moving closer to the city. My W and our home seem to be a place of respite for him. I don't know the entire story, so I might as well be friendly to him. He does seem like a good guy. I'm not sure what my W has told him.
He said that my W can be a pit bull, as she apparently was giving him a hard time about something over the weekend. He told me he knows how I feel sometimes.
I do miss going to the salsa venues , but it probably wouldn't be the same at this time. People would treat me differently, or try to get me to talk about the R. I'll keep the dancing separate for now.
I went to a West Coast Swing club dance this weekend. I'm still new to WCS (< one year), so am still working on confidence. It's always good to see and be seen, and build and maintain my network. There are ladies who appreciate a basic dance, and who don't want the challenges of intermediate moves. WCS is growing on me. It's a smooth dance with some style.
I've come a long way dance wise in the past year. I'm finishing my first year with the local ballroom chapter, and have renewed my membership. I now attend every month. A year ago, I only danced salsa. In the past year, I've taken Rumba, Merengue, Cha Cha, WCS, East Coast Swing, and Waltz lessons. My repertoire has expanded a great deal. A year ago, I only went to venues with my W. For the past two months, I've gone strictly by myself.
I'm having such a wonderful time enjoying my freedom with dancing and dance lessons, and building connections, and building creative nonfiction writing skills, that I don't miss my W when she's gone.
I know the story's going to turn at some point, but for now I'm enjoying the respite from the drama of late last year and early this year.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
