But if I say anything that might remotely hint at us reconciling he shuts down! "You know I care about you, but Im not sure..."
Good luck!
Br, I think he at some level enjoys your reassurances and hinting at reconciling. He knows you'll always be there for him. If you're not happy with this, you could stop the hints and reassuring him about his behaviors. I'm sure he already knows that you don't hate him, so keeping on with something that doesn't work, I think that's a cheeseless tunnel.
PM, you rock! You are such a great woman, anyone would be a complete fool to even consider leaving you. I've always felt your H will realize this!!! Karen