My H was the same. Didn't speak up until he'd already had a PA for at least a month. Told me he thought I wouldn't get a part-time job or want to work on our marriage! Don't know if that's bs or if he did think it, kind of convenient thinking.
I think sometimes the As tend them to see things as worse than they are; my H literally told me he did that at the start of the affair. So don't know how much of it is really our faults. Communication is good, I do wish we had tried MC before the A, but really it's the WAS that should be requesting that if they are unhappy. Karen
