Wow PM! Great DBing! Your ability to keep your mouth shut is inspirational to me... I have some trouble in that dept.

I feel like I am in sort of the same place with my H. The A is over and he is mourning our R and I just try to be his friend, convince him that I do not hate him, and nor should he hate himself. Do you ever get bitter about it? I have a hard time being his crying shoulder, he talks about how much he misses me, and us and that the thought of us really being separate people makes him feel like when his best friend died. But if I say anything that might remotely hint at us reconciling he shuts down! "You know I care about you, but Im not sure..."

Good luck!

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...