New to the world of adultery

[K4D]

"But it's so hard for me to give up on a M b/c I did commit to it in front of God."

I understand what you are saying. Thats why I was trying to show you that you can look at this as a M that was a good possibility of not being valid to begin with. Not because of you, but because of him.

You are right in that your M is a personal decision you make and its not a cooky cutter type of thing. I am just trying to help ease your concious on this one is all.

I think if you can get past the emotional aspect, you can feel at ease with your situation on this one.

I don't advocate D and I don't have all the answers. I just try and look at what the bible says and see if I can understand it and I ask others as well to see what understanding they have.

I know how you feel. According to the protestant bible, I could walk away from my W. But emotionally, I don't want to. And for my kids sake as well as my own, I am still trying to keep this M together even though W wants no part of it and is moving on to other guys. I still hang on because I believe its the right thing to do and I do still love her.

So I understand completely what you are saying. Seek some christian counsel if you are confused. I do. Maybe it will help clear things up for you.

I hope I have not upset you as I only want you to not worry about your situation or decisions in this particular case. I'm just trying to be helpful if I can be.

This betrayal will certainly take time to get over. It won't happen over night. But you were growing so strong in your faith and I believe you still are. Do your faith for yourself. Someone told me to make God #1 and S #2. Otherwise you can fall into the trap of only focusing on your faith for your S and you aren't really focusing for you and your own salvation. Of course have faith that God can heal and fix all things. And certainly pray for it. But also remember that God gives everyone free will. And its unfortunate how some people choose to use it.

We are all living with that right now at some level with our S or none of us would be here.

You are going to be ok. Just remember that. Healing takes time. But you seem to have the ability to keep things in perspective and better yourself and that will really help you.

I'm sure this is not the easter you had in mind. But try and spend some time thanking God and Jesus anyways for your salvation and for the treasures and comfort you know you will receive by being faithful.

You are doing good and have been for sometime. You will make it.

Kevin