I said the other nite "i would go have a MLC and trip off into lala land."
H's response was"no you dont want to do that"
Me: "why?
H: "the guilt would kill ya"
He now keeps his phone plugged in at nite in the kitchen instead of by his bed......just the little things.....one at a time.
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Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Your h is baking up quite nicely. He knows exactly what mlc is all about now and he's right....the guilt would definitely have a very serious impact on you.
One step at a time, one day at a time. Once he's fully baked up, I truly believe you both will have a better relationship than pre-mlc. Keep your expectations at zero, listen, listen and listen to what he tells you. Patience is now the key and I do believe you've got that key in hand.
Hang in there.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
How true that is - little things one at a time. That's what I get too but it's so overwhelming when you look at the BIG picture of the Grand Canyon gap yet.
Keep your eyes on the horizon.
How's the horses?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Sometimes he still says things I find quite infuriating. par for the course i guess......
he still feels insecure not sure i love him or really want him here.....par for the course as well.....
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
N2M, Exactly....testing the waters to see where your head, heart and soul really are.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
